Taking the lead from a special friend and a believer of the power of secrets if you let them, I am taking this space to try and explain how what you see is not always what is behind the blindfolds.
During the time when the worlds families contained a mother, a father, a sister, a brother and a dog name Spot there was this girl. The family she was with was not like the others of that time. She had the brother and sister and the mother but the father had left when she was 4 and being a daddy's girl, she felt very alone.
The mother remarried and with the girl just starting the second grade, she was still learning what relationships were. The new husband decided to show and teach the girl what he told her 'love' was. He not only showed her, but also gave her to friends of his for them also to show her 'love'. Because 'love' was something to feel instead of something to see, she was blindfolded. This kept her from knowing who the friends were of the new husband and from being able to tell of their 'love'.
This went on until the wonderful day the films in school that you needed the permission slips to be able to see. The Sex Ed films. See, even though kids would say words in school yards and act like they knew what they were saying, if what you were being told wasn't called this you didn't connect those dots. The films changed that. You got to see the visual. You knew even with blindfolds when the 'friends' were around, that what was going on was not 'love'.
The girl finds out that she was having sex and with multiple people that she didn't even know who all but one of them were. She knows she must tell her mother of this and has to find a way to do so.
One night after hearing her sister get into trouble for sleeping in class (the sister had also be shown 'love') the girl knew it was time to try and stop what was going on. She goes to her mother and tells her. She tries to find the correct words to tell and explain and convince the mother that it wasn't her fault. The husband comes home and the mother has the girl repeat everything in front of him. Being scared, her words failed her and she just doesn't make any sense.
The mother gets the old screen door locks for the girl and her sister's bedroom. This will keep all harm away from them. That is until the brother decides he is mad that they had special locks and he doesn't, that he bangs in the door and so goes the locks.
After six months, the mother and the husband do finally separate. But by now, the girl only knows that 'love' is sex and when you try to be strong, no one hears you.
The magic of the secrets is that back then, no one talked about things. If it happened behind your families close doors, it is no one elses business or concern. No one questioned when a girl would sleep in class all the time. No one asked why is it a girl listens too closely to male voices. (The girl was trying to see if this was one of the men that had 'loved' her.)
Once the girl was able to and strong enough, she left her home, her town, her past. It was where confusion started for her and she wanted to be as far away as possible. It wasn't until she saw the obit of the husband that she was able to think of going back.
It took a while before she could see her home town as a place instead of a part of the situation, but finally was able to do so. And by doing so, also found out there were several good people that had been there all along that she couldn't see because of the blindfolds she always had on.
The secrets of magic is you don't see what is really going on. And that gives the secrets magical power. When you feel you have on blindfolds, it's not magic keeping you from knowing the true. It's secrets.
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